Hi Fellow Readers and Internet Marketing Type Folks,
I’ve seen some really great quotes and also meme’s about walking away from those you love because they hurt you. Yes even big tough guys like me can be hurt by the actions, non-actions and words of loved ones. Since around 2012, I’ve had to make some changes in my life that made my beautiful wife very sad. I had to cut myself off from those I thought were my family…the family I never really had. Oh I had a family but truth be told it was only really my siblings, not my parents, etc. And yes I was closer to some siblings than others. But when I married as the saying goes, “the girl of my dreams,” little did I know that she would be a gorgeous Vietnamese woman….ahem and very very Catholic. I was brought up an Anglican and when I first tried to explain what that was, well, you would have thought I was talking about being raised in a church that killed babies just for fun. My future wife had this look of horror on her face and then proclaimed, “YOU MUST COME TO CATHOLIC…MUST TOO!!” Just her way of saying bub, you’re converting whether you like it or not. So I converted when I finally was able to take the course.
Little did I know that the family I loved and adored, married into…would face a crisis, at least I thought it was a crisis and react by not standing up for their family and their faith which I was lead to believe was very very strong. And then the excuses started.
I could write on and on about this but you get the picture. The hardest part of it, is the fact that I think many of them believe it was just one thing that made turn away from them and in fact it was and is many things, chief one being…a certain person taking zero responsibility for their words and actions over a ten year period and my wife, not addressing the situation, choosing to ignore my complaints.
I’ve been told many times that I should not be angry or sad about what has happened but the truth is, I believe I am the only one affected that probably thinks about the situation day in and day out. But in my mind, I had no choice because the Viking/Celtic blood flows through my veins and I see myself going to war. In my previous jobs I did a lot of fighting and it came naturally to me. Give me abuse and I will kick your ass from pillar to post. 🙂
There is nothing wrong with standing alone if you are a true man. It’s better to stand up for what you believe in…even if it means death. While my father and I did not see eye to eye…he was the bravest, toughest man I ever knew…a Canadian war hero. I’m from a long line of warrior-soldiers and cops. Only a badly broken hand at the age of 17 kept me out of the armed forces…the military doctor said that my hand would never heal properly and he was right but it never stopped me from fighting when need be or practicing martial arts from 1974 til the present. Arthritis be damned…you cannot cage a warrior.
I see lots of negative stuff on Facebook but also some really positive sayings. The one below really resonated with me and was the inspiration for the post. I have left in the author’s name as I just sharing her post here but I did bold an important part. Enjoy:
You don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a relative, romantic interest, employer, childhood friend, or a new acquaintance — you don’t have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It’s one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if a person disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and “continues” to treat you in a harmful way, they need to go. ~ Daniell Koepke